February 26, 2013
Hardy Boys And Girls: What Makes Them Tick
Why is it that some people are resilient, but others are constantly a victim? Queendom.com, a pioneer in online personality, IQ, and career tests, set out to figure out why some people crumble under even the most minor pressure, while others attack major crises and end up in control with their psyches intact.
What they found was that the hardy personality (i.e. those who tackled the crisis instead of crumbled) exhibited what they called the three Cs: commitment, control, challenge. Those hardy boys and girls used these three personality traits to help them deal with and overcome their pressures thus the three Cs helped them be resilient.
So, let’s look at those just a bit closer.
Commitment is a quality that most parents try to instill in their children from a very young age. Commitment means be dedicated to an activity, cause, engagement, or obligation. Commitment means that one does not give up until the job or experience is complete and wrapped up. According to Queendom’s information, “Hardy people tackle every task in their life, no matter how mundane, with 100% effort. They are able to understand the future payback of their efforts today, rather than getting caught up in the drudgery of the daily grind. Their life has purpose.” I could not have said it better myself.
Commitment is the first step to being or becoming hardy. If people can commit completely to a task no matter how small or large, then they will be better suited not to crumble when the tough gets going.
Next to commitment, control is another quality necessary for a hardy personality. Control does not simply mean to lead and direct (although that is certainly part of it); control means to keep one’s wits about her or him, to be grounded, and to manage oneself. If individuals can do this in themselves, then they will be better able to influence and possibly direct others when the time comes.
Control means looking for solutions to problems instead of just running away from them. Control means not allowing outside factors to influence logic and reason. Control means finding ways to improve one’s situation. Control is good.
The last C is challenge. Instead of looking at a situation as impossible, we should simply think of it as a challenge, an obstacle to overcome. Whatever the experience, there will undoubtedly be a way to maneuver through it, about it, or around it. Nothing is impossible. Challenge means an answer exists and that an end will come. It may test our abilities, but that only means we have an opportunity to prove our worth and possibly show off our talents.
Instead of looking at a challenge as impossible, we should definitely see it for what it is: solvable.
If you see these three Cs and think, “Whoa, I can’t do that,” then this article is aimed at you. See, hardiness is not something innate in us. We are not born either hardy or not. We may be predisposed to the flight part of fight or flight, but we can, most definitely, become fighters, become hardy. With a little bit of training, confidence, and proactivity, we can all move from the victim column to the victor. We can all become hardy. It just takes practice, perseverance, and positivity.
I guess that means the three Cs and three Ps are necessary for hardiness.
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