November 4, 2013
Paul McCartney, Apparently, Was Wrong
To quote the good Sir McCartney, “I don’t care too much for money, money can’t buy me love.”
Unfortunately it seems the simpler days of the 1960s have gone the way of the Dodo.
Because now, dear reader…NOW we live in an age where dating is no longer an exercise in going out, meeting people, and working to find romantic compatibility in another human being.
NOW we live in a world where dating has been reduced to stalking a person’s Facebook or getting acquainted through online dating sites before ever meeting in meet space.
There are, of course, the more salacious technologies out there that aid those who are only looking for a quick fling with no more commitment than it takes to rent a room, spend a few hours bumping uglies, and moving on with life.
Not that there’s anything wrong with that, of course…
And perhaps it’s the same kind of pure and bold-faced honesty that is driving some people to go looking for exactly what they want; someone to buy their love.
Carrot isn’t the only means of “sugar daddy dating” currently out there, but it sure as hell makes it easier with their mobile app.
In sugar daddy dating, just as it sounds, both parties in the couple have a spoken or unspoken agreement that one person (the sugar daddy) will lavish the other member with gifts and monetary rewards.
In sugar daddy dating, the sugar daddy can present exactly what they plan to buy or pay for, allowing the recipient to make their decision based purely on the quality of their offering.
It’s something like paying a dowery without the pesky father in the middle.
And Carrot is rather aptly titled, borrowing from that whole “carrot and a stick” metaphor. It’s not entirely inaccurate, but to this writer’s mind it’s nothing less than unflattering.
For an example of this pure, dirty honesty used by the app makers, take a look at their explanation for the service:
“Carrot Dating is the world’s first mobile app where singles can use bribery to get first dates. This unique approach teaches singles to always bring something to the table. Whether it is a special gift or a unique activity, the Carrot Dating app gives you the power to prove your worth and date the man or woman of your dreams.”
Anyone who has ever endured one of my old man rants knows that I’ve somehow turned extremely old-fashioned in my 31 years.
But I have to believe that the things people should “bring to the table” can’t be bought with money; things like compassion, honesty, high moral fiber, and a passion in something, anything larger than themselves.
Ah, but we’re in a different marketplace these days where this kind of currency isn’t always accepted.
According to some stats posted by Reuters and the Washington Post, 40 million people have given online dating a shot. eHarmony.com and Match.com members make up 35 million of those supposed 40 million who tried it. And over all the online dating industry rakes in about $1.049 BILLION a year.
Which is to say, if you’re single, chances are you’re going to try online dating, and things like compassion, high moral fiber, etc., can’t be immediately determined in an online profile.
Perhaps my beef is more with online dating and not Carrot.
A caveat, if you’ll allow it; I appreciate honesty where I see it, and while I wouldn’t condone bribery dating, I think it’s mostly harmless if all parties know what they’re getting into.
But if it’s something meaningful you’re looking for, best not to sell yourself cheaply for a gift which can be burned with fire or washed away in a flood. Likewise, it’s best not to cheapen a person’s virtue by trying to put a price tag on their worth.
But that’s just me.
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