February 13, 2013
Show Me The Romance
Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. Lovers everywhere are thinking about how to celebrate the holiday created to rejoice in love. For some that means a fancy dinner, expensive gifts, and lots of flowers. Others celebrate with a simple candle-lit dinner at home. Still, some send e-cards and flowers and other technology.
One Baylor College of Medicine (BCM) psychiatrist advises that we can’t allow technology to become a replacement for quality personal time with our loved ones, though. Dr. Asim Shah, associate professor in the Menninger Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at BCM says, “Technology can be used positively but it’s not a replacement for face-to-face interaction and should be used when logistically it’s not possible to be together.”
Dr. Shah gave some ideas on how to really celebrate Valentine’s Day without technology. First of all, he advises that we should all turn off our technology — cell phones, computers, tablets, whatever — and just focus on each other. Otherwise, the technology sends the message to our loved ones that other things are more important than the one-on-one time with our lovers.
He suggests that a nice romantic dinner can be a great way to make V-Day special. Though most would think that means going to a dinner at an expensive restaurant, it could also be a dinner out at a couple’s favorite eatery or even fast-food place. Couples can even prepare a quiet dinner at home with candles, wine or sparkling grape juice, and their favorite songs. A romantic dinner does not have to cost much nor does it have to be out on the town. Sometimes just sitting together at home with candles is enough to light the romance.
A nice treat for our loved ones can also be a nice way to celebrate this year. Maybe that consists of cleaning up the house as a surprise or picking up our lover’s favorite candy. It could also be a walk around the neighborhood, sitting and watching a movie at home, or even just listening to music together. Sometimes the best gift is simply acknowledging each other and focusing on just each other, without any technology distractions.
Dr. Shah grants that sometimes technology connects couples on the day of love. Those away on active duty for the armed forces, traveling for business, or in a long-distance relationship need technology to love on each other. Skype, Facebook, video, and other social media might be the only way to see each other when miles span the distance between lovers.
Technology can also be used to send flowers, e-cards, and even chocolates. I know for me, an electronic card would show me that my loved ones know how I feel about unnecessary paper usage. Plus, receiving an e-card or e-bouquet would be a lovely surprise at the office while I work busily on the computer.
What we have to understand, though, is when to turn off our gadgets. Sometimes, a good old fashioned greeting card really makes us feel special. It is cheap yet can say so much. Plus, if your lover is anything like me, they then can use the card as a bookmark, which makes the romance last longer.
Furthermore, and even more important, we can’t forget to show our love to each other all through the year. One day a year is not enough to keep the romance fresh. We must have romantic meals, send e-cards or give greeting cards, and pick up trinket gifts all throughout the year. We can’t just show love once a year. We must show our love daily. We do not need a single date to recognize our love and romance and connections, be they in person or via technology.