July 16, 2013
Texting Between The Sheets (And Other Places)
We’re not sure how this one goes. But almost one in ten Americans use their mobile phone during sex, according to a study conducted by Harris Interactive for the mobile verification and payments company Jumio.
The online survey of 1,102 online adults didn’t ask for details. Do we want to know? Part of me wants to leave it up to my imagination. Are these people doing mundane activities such as checking email from the boss or texting with friends? Maybe they’re looking up the weather? Or if things are going really bad, maybe those who use their mobile phones in the bedroom are looking up positions or new techniques? Then of course there’s always the possibility that someone is looking up porn or playing music to set the mood.
Other surprising — and downright rude — locations people use their mobile phones are in a movie theater (35 percent); during a dinner date (33 percent); at a child’s or school function (32 percent); and in a church or place or worship (19 percent). Up to twelve percent of respondents said they use their phones while in the shower. I guess some of those people spend time on the phone with their carrier getting replacements all too often, unless they have a waterproof case like Lifeproof.
Back to the sex. As many as nine percent of adults surveyed admit they’ve used their phone during sex. That number goes up to 20 percent among those ages 18 to 34. Let’s just say the smartphone isn’t always appreciated. Roughly twelve percent of respondents in a relationship said they think their smartphone gets in the way of the relationship. That number encompasses what happens at the dinner table — and elsewhere — as well as the bedroom.
We all get caught up in staying connected. The survey finds that 72 percent of respondents report being within five feet of their smartphones the majority of the time. I have to admit, I am among that cohort. A few weeks ago I realized I left my Android phone on my desk before getting in the car to go to a restaurant for dinner. It was pouring rain, and we were meeting people at the restaurant. So those two factors prevented me from running back in the house, even though we were just pulling out of the driveway. All through dinner I was a bit anxious. I would have been more at ease had I had my phone in my pocket. When I go from my home office to the living room to watch TV, I usually take my phone with me in case someone calls, and so I can glance at my phone to check for emails or interesting Facebook posts.
The smartphone has not only replaced my watch, but also my alarm clock. I keep my phone at my bedside at night. I might use it to check the time if I wake up in the middle of the night, or get a quick news update in the morning, but I do forget about it when my attention is on more exciting things.
It’s easy to get caught up in Facebook updates, Tweets, Pinterest tags and other updates that come in on your phone, but it’s important to remain mindful. There are times that the phone should stay in sleep mode. Your attention should remain on your partner when things heat up, and it will be appreciated.
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