August 29, 2013
The 23 Signs (12-23)
In a previous blog, I wrote about the first 11 signs that might make one an introvert. Here are the other 12 to help introverts self-identify as well as help educate and inform their extroverted compadres on the introvert’s life.
12) You’d rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
Part of this comes from the need to think things out before rushing into something. This happens in conversations, too. The introvert will really think about her answer while the extrovert jumps head first into her answers.
13) You actively avoid any shows that might involve audience participation.
The Huffington Post put it right in this one, “Because really, is anything more terrifying?”
14) You screen all your calls—even from friends.
This is not because we don’t want to talk to our loved ones, but because we must be in the right state to be on the phone and talk. It’s just hard.
15) You notice details that others don’t.
As thinkers, the introverts consider everything, which means they definitely watch for all the signs and details. The seemingly most insignificant detail can bear great importance to an introvert’s comprehension and decisions. Few others will even notice many of the details that an introvert does unless of course they are introverts themselves.
16) You have a constantly running inner monologue.
This goes right back to the intense thinkers that most introverts are. They think, think, think, and rethink, rethink, rethink, so their inner monologue is constantly on. Always.
17) You have low blood pressure.
I did not know this about introverts, but it is certainly true in my case.
18) You’ve been called an “old soul”—since your 20s.
The first time someone said that to me I was baffled. I couldn’t understand how being quiet and pensive meant I had an old soul. I guess for people whose thoughts pop in their brains and out their mouths, quiet means wise. Introverts just contemplate everything, and I do mean everything.
19) You don’t feel “high” from your surroundings.
Where the extrovert gets an energy boost from being around tons of people, the introvert must go find a silent corner where no one else fits and huddle alone. Introverts just don’t connect to others just by being around them. For the introvert, large crowds full of electricity drain what energy the introvert brought with her, no matter how much she prepped for the surroundings.
20) You look at the big picture.
While an introvert will definitely notice the details and pay attention to detail relevance, she also thinks more globally. The big picture is most important. This is why chitchat is so difficult for the introvert but deep conversations about ideas and the big picture come naturally. The abstract weighs heavier than the concrete for the introvert.
21) You’ve been told to “come out of your shell.”
And, boy, are you tired of hearing it. The introvert is perfectly content with quiet, pensive peace. Leave the boisterous talking to the extrovert. The world needs both.
22) You’re a writer.
Um, well, yeah.
23) You alternate between phases of work and solitude and periods of social activity.
In the words of the article, “Introverts can move around their introverted “set point” which determines how they need to balance solitude with social activity. But when they move too much — possibly by over-exerting themselves with too much socializing and busyness — they get stressed and need to come back to themselves, according Olsen Laney [author of “The Introvert Advantage”]. This may manifest as going through periods of heightened social activity, and then balancing it out with a period of inwardness and solitude.”
Now, as I wrote in the first blog on this, these are not absolutes. Introverts are different in and of themselves. These characteristics are general but not the end all of introverts. Still, thinking about the signs and considering how they pertain to us as individuals and to our loved ones can help us to better connect and communicate. At least, I hope it can.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need some downtime.
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