The Story Of Love At First Sight And Craigslist
March 9, 2013

The Story Of Love At First Sight And Craigslist

Looking for love? Well, apparently the place to find it is Craigslist. CNN recently reported that the online goods, job, activities, romance, services, advice, and really all you could want website has a missed connections page where people can post personal ads looking for that girl or guy they made eye contact with in line at the pharmacy, bar, gym, or wherever. Craigslist’s missed connections pages make modern-day love connections.

And just where is the most common place for these missed connections? A bar…nope. The waiting room at the doctor or dentist? Good guess, but try again. What about a restaurant? Again, no. The most common place for love according the CNN article is Wal-Mart. Yep, the big box discount conglomerate is the place to go for love at first sight.

According to the Psychology Today magazine article that originally looked into this, in 15 states mostly across the South and up into Idaho, more people thought they saw their future spouses at Wal-Mart than anywhere else. They were so compelled by this feeling that they posted a personal on the missed connections page of Craigslist (here is a link to the one for Oklahoma City).

I must admit that I do not use Craigslist. I have no reason for this other than I just have not delved into that part of the internet just yet. If you are anything like me, then you probably did not even know that people could seek out strangers who caught their attentions by way of Craigslist.

It is amazing how technology is used for match making. From eHarmony to Plenty of Fish and now Craigslist, the internet connects singles. Even married and those in a committed relationship  can find someone online with whom they can have an affair (click here to see the blog I wrote about this around Valentine’s day.).

I can’t say I blame people for using these electronic avenues to find love. In an increasingly more written and visual world, meeting our partners can be difficult. Using websites like those listed above puts less pressure on meeting others. Though I think that putting out an ad on Craigslist is a bit odd, who am I to judge how people connect?

CNN further reported that some other places had a different number one than Wal-Mart, although 15 of the 50 states had more Wal-Mart than not. Many connections happened in other places. For instance, in New York, most of the connections happened in the subway; while in California, most people had momentary connections at 24 Hour Fitness, the most popular gym chain.

These three places seem completely natural. For instance, many people use the subway in New York, many work out in California, and many shop at Wal-Mart all over the country, so doesn’t it make sense that we might have encounters with others whom we have an attraction to? I mean, if more people go to these places than not, obviously sparks will fly at times.

It is pretty cool that those sparks might become flames with the use of Craigslist’s missed connections pages. Love will find us. This is just further proof of that.

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Rayshell E. Clapper is an Associate Professor of English at a rural college in Oklahoma where she teaches Creative Writing, Literature, and Composition classes. She has presented her original fiction and non-fiction at several conferences and events including: Scissortail Creative Writing Festival, Howlers and Yawpers Creativity Symposium, Southwest/Texas Pop Culture Association/American Culture Association Regional Conference, and Pop Culture Association/American Culture Association National Conference. Her publications include Cybersoleil Journal, Sugar Mule Literary Magazine, Red Dirt Anthology, Originals, and Oklahoma English Journal. Beyond her written works, she successfully created a writer's group in rural Oklahoma to support burgeoning writers. The written word is her passion, and all she experiences inspires that passion. She hopes to help inspire others through her words.

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